Meta Muddle, Wildfires, and the Social Media Wilderness

I’m hating that Meta is getting hateful.

Mark Zuckerberg’s nakedly transparent sucking up to Donald Trump continues to unravel much of whatever fabric we thought social media might have knit together. I remember back in the day when some argued over whether or not it should be called a social graph. Those were naive days and that was naive math.

When Zuckerberg ditched human fact-checking it was only a matter of time before he ditched DEI initiatives as the next move. That happened today. In fact I’m surprised he didn’t do that first. All of this has left me, along with others, debating the wisdom of hanging around on Meta properties going forward. The ones I’ve used are Facebook, Instagram, and Threads. Of the latter two, Threads would be easy to leave, Instagram less so. Facebook is a dilemma of another sort.

This week’s horrific fires in Los Angeles illustrate my dilemma. I have many friends living in Los Angeles. Facebook was the one way I could keep up with their lives and careers and more immediately these recent horrible predicaments. I was able to find out who was safe and who was in danger. I know for several of them it was akin to a lifeline.

Perhaps our problem is how we got sucked or suckered into these social media maelstroms in the first place, but in the scope of human history it’s no different than how we follow any sort of trend, until we discover the downsides. It was an easy decision for me to abandon Twitter when Musk took over. This decision will be more difficult.

Not only does this week’s tragedy hit home differently, but Facebook has been a way, and I suggest the only way, I have had to stay connected to folks I went to high school and college with. The same, to a lesser extent is true about Instagram.

Sure I could have made phone calls, written letters, and Christmas cards, but being able to effortlessly see what’s happening in the lives of others I know was a decided benefit. Yes, I was feeding the beast each time I scrolled, liked or shared something, but the only difference between that and what we’ve done ever since the dawn of the age of marketing is scale, unless you’ve never shopped at a grocery store, used a bank, or bought insurance.

So, I’m struggling a bit with the decision I know I will inevitably make, and I know others are too. It will be a loss. Social media is a bit of a wilderness right now, and any wilderness is a dangerous place.

Sadly, and selfishly, my struggles are certainly less fraught than those of some of my friends and colleagues who know that there are those eager to exploit Meta’s dehumanizing new policies.

Casey Newton in Platformer reported some of the hateful guidelines. Here’s an excerpt:

In an answer to the question “Do insults about mental illness and abnormality violate when targeting people on the basis of gender or sexual orientation?” Meta now answers “no.” It gave the following examples of posts that do not violate its policies:

Non-violating: “Boys are weird.”

Non-violating: “Trans people aren’t real. They’re mentally ill.”

Non-violating: “Gays are not normal.”

Non-violating: “Women are crazy.”

Non-violating: “Trans people are freaks.”

And in examples of posts that are now allowed on Facebook:

“There’s no such thing as trans children.”

“God created two genders, ‘transgender’ people are not a real thing.”

“This whole nonbinary thing is made up. Those people don’t exist, they’re just in need of some therapy.”

“A trans woman isn’t a woman, it’s a pathetic confused man.”

“A trans person isn’t a he or she, it’s an it.”

These tech bros used to con us (yes, we always knew it was a con) with promises of building a better world. I guess we can only be glad that their efforts are now more transparent, and their views, in my opinion twisted and wrong. Hopefully that knowledge of this moment will allow us to hopefully make wiser decisions going forward. I say hopefully, because in my view of the world, we haven’t proven we’re capable of that yet as a species.

You can find more of my writings on a variety of topics on Medium at this link, including in the publications Ellemeno and Rome. I can also be found on social media under my name as above. 

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Author: Warner Crocker

I stumble through life as a theatre director and playwright as well as a gadget geek...commenting along the way. Every day I learn something new is a good day, so I share what I find exciting, new, stupid and often worthwhile.

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  1. I’m glad I ditched FB a while ago, around 2015 or so. Stopped using Instagram 2 years ago. Never really got into Threads. I close my Insta/Threads accounts a couple weeks ago.  My process was to post that I was leaving and explain why and for folks to message me if they wanted to stay in touch. I reposted it a few times over a month or so. I reached out to folks I wanted do stay in touch with and updated my Contacts. 

    I may be a bit of an anti-social bastard though. Then and now, I figured it would shake out as it should. I’d stay in touch with those I really wanted to stay in touch with. 10 years later and I’ve never missed it. I’ve lost touch with most of the folks I was connected with via FB and don’t miss them. The truth is, in my case, most of those relationships didn’t really mean much.  Shrug. Like I said, I may be an anti-social bastard. 

    But really, if you’ve got phone numbers and emails you CAN connect if you actually WANT to. Create a new routine and process for reaching out. I’m sure you know all that! Just cheering you on should you decide to opt out!

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